Couples – Intimacy

     Intimacy in a relationship is so much more than the physical act of sex.  Intimacy is about trust and communication.  It is about openness and transparency.  It is about connection.

     I am not a sex therapist.  I do help couples invigorate their intimacy by improving their level of connection and trust through communication.  Most women will tell you that if they are not feeling emotionally connected with their husband/partner, they will not feel like being intimate with them.

     Building connection and trust comes by breaking down the walls that inhibit emotional togetherness.  This happens when more trust is built and when couples understand each other and themselves.  I help individuals and the couple see the walls and patterns that are creating awkward distancing and impinging on the joy of intimacy.  I provide them with strategies and skills that will help, appropriately, bring the walls down and improve the intimacy in the relationship.

     Another aspect of intimacy for some select couples is polyamory/open relationships.  For some couples, having an open relationship or considering an open relationship is an important dynamic that comes up either intentionally or by accident.  Polyamorous/open relationships are not for everyone!  They are definitely challenging and can end a relationship.  However, it is true that some couples manage them and find them to be very rich and rewarding.  If this is an issue/concern in your relationship, I work with couples on understanding the dynamics of polyamory/open relationships and work with them on making sure appropriate boundaries and guidelines are agreed upon and in place.  I help couples identify potential pitfalls and ensure that each individual in the relationship is open to this and not being coerced.